Comments for The Naked Soul http://tobeme.wordpress.com A Journey of Awareness Tue, 15 Dec 2009 19:50:26 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 Comment on Sudden Death by tobeme http://tobeme.wordpress.com/2009/12/15/sudden-death/#comment-16689 tobeme Tue, 15 Dec 2009 19:50:26 +0000 http://tobeme.wordpress.com/?p=1454#comment-16689 Ann, Thank-you for sharing your thoughts and your heart felt poem! I would never delete your thoughts, there is no such thing as too long. I enjoy what you have to say and how you add to our conversation on this very important topic. You have given us much to think about and I thank-you. Hugs. Ann,
Thank-you for sharing your thoughts and your heart felt poem! I would never delete your thoughts, there is no such thing as too long. I enjoy what you have to say and how you add to our conversation on this very important topic. You have given us much to think about and I thank-you. Hugs.

]]> Comment on Sudden Death by ann http://tobeme.wordpress.com/2009/12/15/sudden-death/#comment-16688 ann Tue, 15 Dec 2009 19:19:03 +0000 http://tobeme.wordpress.com/?p=1454#comment-16688 Another awesome and thought-provoking post and I'm sorry for how it was prompted! Death is an almighty shock when it is so unexpected yet it is the one certainty in life - even when there is time to prepare, the loss is just as great. I do think about death a lot, but not in a morbid way - I pray when my time comes my mourners will celebrate my life and not grieve for me - at the end of the day it is those left behind who feel sorrow and suffer. It is interesting your point about children, but in my experience it is amazing how they bounce back and carry on with their lives seemingly better than adults do - their questions have to be answered, but simply - they're not looking for deep, complex or theological explanations. I feel so much for Gail's loss, but totally agree with your response to her comment. We are here on loan and there is a purpose to everything even when it eludes us. So the question is asked, why do bad things happen to good people? There's no real rational reply, but look around and see how many good deeds come from bereavement and loss - charities founded in memory, fund-raising for research - it usually takes a tragedy to be the impetus for worthy causes Ironically my work is connected with residential and nursing homes - I see the medical cards of our patients and cannot believe every year they are still here - they can have dementia and be roombound and blind or deaf, or in a vegetative state - so many things wrong with them and I wonder why G-d hasn't granted them a place in heaven yet - why are they still here with no quality of life - so I think to myself maybe it's to test the others around them; their family and friends and carers. Sorry, I do go on - I told you I think about death a lot. Also I have taken the liberty of reproducing here the one poem I have ever had published - not a great one - I wrote it when my father and father-in-law died within months of each other - I'd like to think they're sharing jokes and anecdotes up there. Destiny How long life, how long will we Be granted to fulfil our destiny In the vastness of the universe Fleeting moments on earth are we To leave our mark, make good our name To leave cherished memories of what we became Given freewill to make a difference To shine like a star in its brilliance So much to learn So little time on our sojourn Soon celestial angels will take our hand For the world to come, our Promised Land Praying we leave behind a binding legacy of love As we cross over to the heavens above Published in Your Legacy of Love by Gemini Adams 2009 (If you think this comment is too much, please feel free to delete it) :) Another awesome and thought-provoking post and I’m sorry for how it was prompted!

Death is an almighty shock when it is so unexpected yet it is the one certainty in life – even when there is time to prepare, the loss is just as great. I do think about death a lot, but not in a morbid way – I pray when my time comes my mourners will celebrate my life and not grieve for me – at the end of the day it is those left behind who feel sorrow and suffer. It is interesting your point about children, but in my experience it is amazing how they bounce back and carry on with their lives seemingly better than adults do – their questions have to be answered, but simply – they’re not looking for deep, complex or theological explanations.

I feel so much for Gail’s loss, but totally agree with your response to her comment. We are here on loan and there is a purpose to everything even when it eludes us. So the question is asked, why do bad things happen to good people? There’s no real rational reply, but look around and see how many good deeds come from bereavement and loss – charities founded in memory, fund-raising for research – it usually takes a tragedy to be the impetus for worthy causes

Ironically my work is connected with residential and nursing homes – I see the medical cards of our patients and cannot believe every year they are still here – they can have dementia and be roombound and blind or deaf, or in a vegetative state – so many things wrong with them and I wonder why G-d hasn’t granted them a place in heaven yet – why are they still here with no quality of life – so I think to myself maybe it’s to test the others around them; their family and friends and carers.

Sorry, I do go on – I told you I think about death a lot. Also I have taken the liberty of reproducing here the one poem I have ever had published – not a great one – I wrote it when my father and father-in-law died within months of each other – I’d like to think they’re sharing jokes and anecdotes up there.

Destiny

How long life, how long will we
Be granted to fulfil our destiny
In the vastness of the universe
Fleeting moments on earth are we
To leave our mark, make good our name
To leave cherished memories of what we became
Given freewill to make a difference
To shine like a star in its brilliance
So much to learn
So little time on our sojourn
Soon celestial angels will take our hand
For the world to come, our Promised Land
Praying we leave behind a binding legacy of love
As we cross over to the heavens above

Published in Your Legacy of Love by Gemini Adams 2009

(If you think this comment is too much, please feel free to delete it) :)

]]> Comment on Sudden Death by suzen http://tobeme.wordpress.com/2009/12/15/sudden-death/#comment-16687 suzen Tue, 15 Dec 2009 17:18:12 +0000 http://tobeme.wordpress.com/?p=1454#comment-16687 Hi Mark! Wonderful post, albeit brought about by the loss of your friend at work, but nonetheless a topic supremely well addressed here. I love how you brought up what were the last words said to this person. Isn't that a reminder to be kind ALWAYS? And to love - love love love! As my numbers have flipped into the 60's now, it does give one pause. Not fear - just pause. It has helped me actually. I have eliminated doing things that aren't really necessary (freeing time) I have become an observer rather than participator in dramas (saving emotional energy) and I have a real purpose to decluttering my life and not hanging on to so much useless crap (giving me space to be and saving my kids from having to deal with it!). I've read all kinds of things about living your day as if it was your last and I like that concept - it keeps you on your toes! Hi Mark!
Wonderful post, albeit brought about by the loss of your friend at work, but nonetheless a topic supremely well addressed here. I love how you brought up what were the last words said to this person. Isn’t that a reminder to be kind ALWAYS? And to love – love love love!

As my numbers have flipped into the 60’s now, it does give one pause. Not fear – just pause. It has helped me actually. I have eliminated doing things that aren’t really necessary (freeing time) I have become an observer rather than participator in dramas (saving emotional energy) and I have a real purpose to decluttering my life and not hanging on to so much useless crap (giving me space to be and saving my kids from having to deal with it!). I’ve read all kinds of things about living your day as if it was your last and I like that concept – it keeps you on your toes!

]]> Comment on Sudden Death by dadshouse http://tobeme.wordpress.com/2009/12/15/sudden-death/#comment-16686 dadshouse Tue, 15 Dec 2009 17:14:25 +0000 http://tobeme.wordpress.com/?p=1454#comment-16686 I'm sorry to hear your colleague passed. Death is hard for me to take. I don't like attending funerals. That said, I understand that if I pass, I will be changing form. And so I don't fear death. We are all here for a very short time. We can evolve, become more self aware, learn to love without condition. The material world was here before us and will remain after we pass. I’m sorry to hear your colleague passed. Death is hard for me to take. I don’t like attending funerals. That said, I understand that if I pass, I will be changing form. And so I don’t fear death. We are all here for a very short time. We can evolve, become more self aware, learn to love without condition. The material world was here before us and will remain after we pass.

]]> Comment on Sudden Death by tobeme http://tobeme.wordpress.com/2009/12/15/sudden-death/#comment-16685 tobeme Tue, 15 Dec 2009 13:48:46 +0000 http://tobeme.wordpress.com/?p=1454#comment-16685 Gail, Your are correct this is a delicate subject for many, especially those who have experienced a loss like you and your sister have experienced. It can be very difficult to understand that one's purpose could be accomplished in such a short time and that all that we believed and hoped would happen for that person was simply not meant to be, that those things that we wish for that person were not part of their purpose on this leg of their journey. I think as adults we do grieve for what might have been for a child whose time in this form was short, for we feel they have missed so much opportunity. I believe that it is our self limited consciousness that believes the person has somehow missed out on all of lives adventures, I strongly feel that if you could talk to a child who has passed that they would not believe they missed anything in this life and that they were grateful for the time in this form and the love they experienced. I feel very confident that there are no mistakes, no accidents and when a child passes on that they have completed their purpose and that they in another form that we may not understand are off to achieve another purpose which is at the moment beyond our understanding. We are blessed for the time we have each other be that time a moment or be it years. It is not the quantity of time we spend on the dance floor that makes the dance unforgettable, it is the dance itself even if it is brief that we remember. Much love to you Gail. Thank-you so very much for sharing what was on your heart today. Gail,
Your are correct this is a delicate subject for many, especially those who have experienced a loss like you and your sister have experienced. It can be very difficult to understand that one’s purpose could be accomplished in such a short time and that all that we believed and hoped would happen for that person was simply not meant to be, that those things that we wish for that person were not part of their purpose on this leg of their journey. I think as adults we do grieve for what might have been for a child whose time in this form was short, for we feel they have missed so much opportunity. I believe that it is our self limited consciousness that believes the person has somehow missed out on all of lives adventures, I strongly feel that if you could talk to a child who has passed that they would not believe they missed anything in this life and that they were grateful for the time in this form and the love they experienced. I feel very confident that there are no mistakes, no accidents and when a child passes on that they have completed their purpose and that they in another form that we may not understand are off to achieve another purpose which is at the moment beyond our understanding.
We are blessed for the time we have each other be that time a moment or be it years. It is not the quantity of time we spend on the dance floor that makes the dance unforgettable, it is the dance itself even if it is brief that we remember. Much love to you Gail. Thank-you so very much for sharing what was on your heart today.

]]> Comment on Conformist, Rebel or Simply On Your Own Path? by tobeme http://tobeme.wordpress.com/2009/12/11/conformist-rebel-or-simply-on-your-own-path/#comment-16684 tobeme Tue, 15 Dec 2009 13:30:14 +0000 http://tobeme.wordpress.com/?p=1450#comment-16684 Kelly, I am glad to hear that you sister is doing better. Thank-you for your kind words and welcome to The Naked Soul. I hope that you enjoy what you find here. Your thoughts are always welcome. Hugs and blessings of love and gratitude to you. Kelly,
I am glad to hear that you sister is doing better. Thank-you for your kind words and welcome to The Naked Soul. I hope that you enjoy what you find here. Your thoughts are always welcome. Hugs and blessings of love and gratitude to you.

]]> Comment on Sudden Death by Dawn http://tobeme.wordpress.com/2009/12/15/sudden-death/#comment-16682 Dawn Tue, 15 Dec 2009 11:14:30 +0000 http://tobeme.wordpress.com/?p=1454#comment-16682 Beautiful words that bring solace to many. Sweet that you bring up how our culture sanitizes death and choses to keep lessons of death at arms length from children. Thank you for this timely post Mark. May we embrace the day and the people in it more fully today. Beautiful words that bring solace to many. Sweet that you bring up how our culture sanitizes death and choses to keep lessons of death at arms length from children.

Thank you for this timely post Mark. May we embrace the day and the people in it more fully today.

]]> Comment on Sudden Death by shadow http://tobeme.wordpress.com/2009/12/15/sudden-death/#comment-16681 shadow Tue, 15 Dec 2009 09:49:37 +0000 http://tobeme.wordpress.com/?p=1454#comment-16681 i'm sorry about your loss. death scares me, just as the unknown scares me. i try not to think about it, accept it for being unpredicatable, but it holds a nagging unsettling deep within me. your words, however, do offer 'comfort'. live today, enjoy the people you share your time with, when you have them. that is, ultimately, the only thing we can do... i’m sorry about your loss. death scares me, just as the unknown scares me. i try not to think about it, accept it for being unpredicatable, but it holds a nagging unsettling deep within me. your words, however, do offer ‘comfort’. live today, enjoy the people you share your time with, when you have them. that is, ultimately, the only thing we can do…

]]> Comment on Conformist, Rebel or Simply On Your Own Path? by The Chic Geek http://tobeme.wordpress.com/2009/12/11/conformist-rebel-or-simply-on-your-own-path/#comment-16680 The Chic Geek Tue, 15 Dec 2009 05:30:19 +0000 http://tobeme.wordpress.com/?p=1450#comment-16680 Hi Mark :) I love what you have written and all your posts. I am exploring your blog and I just love it here! "Everyone whom we have a relationship with also has an expiration date." So true and your closing words about always loving are so important. My sister recently was suddenly taken very ill and in ICU for about 8 days...it was so scary and all I kept thinking about is that I didn't tell her enough how much she meant to me and now I might now have that chance! Thankfully, she recovered and I'm never going to make that mistake again in my life. Life is precious...those we love even more so. I never want to forget that. I'm sorry for your loss. Thank you for this beautiful post. I am leaving uplifted with much to think about. Have a Wonderful Week and I will definitely be back! Sending a big Hug to You! Kelly Hi Mark :)
I love what you have written and all your posts. I am exploring your blog and I just love it here!
“Everyone whom we have a relationship with also has an expiration date.” So true and your closing words about always loving are so important. My sister recently was suddenly taken very ill and in ICU for about 8 days…it was so scary and all I kept thinking about is that I didn’t tell her enough how much she meant to me and now I might now have that chance! Thankfully, she recovered and I’m never going to make that mistake again in my life. Life is precious…those we love even more so. I never want to forget that.
I’m sorry for your loss.
Thank you for this beautiful post. I am leaving uplifted with much to think about.

Have a Wonderful Week and I will definitely be back!
Sending a big Hug to You!
Kelly

]]> Comment on Sudden Death by Unknown Mami http://tobeme.wordpress.com/2009/12/15/sudden-death/#comment-16679 Unknown Mami Tue, 15 Dec 2009 04:04:38 +0000 http://tobeme.wordpress.com/?p=1454#comment-16679 I will remind myself that my purpose is to love. I will remind myself that my purpose is to love.

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