Postive Thinking Is Not Enough
“Positive thoughts have power to change your life when
they’re fueled by positive emotions.”
- Peggy McColl {Author of Your Destiny Switch}
Positive thinking is a great thing, however it is often a hollow effort if the positive thoughts are not fueled with positive feelings. We hear all of the time, think positive thoughts and positive things will happen. This is really an incomplete thought, the truth is when you think a positive thought you must also feel positive about the thought, you must have passion which supports your thought, otherwise you tend to self sabotage. For instance, as I prep for a job interview, I choose to think positive thoughts, like “I won’t be nervous, They will love me, I will get this job”, however I don’t really feel all that positive, truth be told, I feel that this job is too big a step up, I feel that there are other canidates that are more qualified. I feel nervous and unsure of myself. In this situation, I am thinking positive, however my feelings are not matching my thoughts, therefore my positive thoughts lose their impact.
The key to positive thinking is you really have to feel what you are thinking. The positive thought is the first step. Thought is the catalyst of every action and reaction, therefore the positive thought is first necessary to help generate the positive feelings that we need to ensure that we are positioned to attract what we truly desire. It is critical that we are not sending conflicting messages/vibrations out.
I believe this is why many people get so frustrated with life. They say, “I tried positive thinking and it didn’t work, so what’s the point?”.
Positive thoughts, although a good starting point, are not enough, our positive thoughts, must be backed up by positive feelings. You must sell yourself on the positive thought! It is also important that the positive thoughts are the dominant thoughts and are not be sabotaged by other thoughts, which are indicating that you really don’t believe in what you are thinking.
When you have your positive thoughts aligned with positive emotions you can indeed change your world, you can create miracles! You will amaze yourself!
so very true…i think the underlying emotions often sabotage people’s “positive thinking”. just being mindful and aware of what’s going on inside your head is so key to stopping it.
also, i think people tend to give up too soon…they want immediate response to their positive thoughts…and perhaps what they were searching for was right around the next corner, but they gave up too soon.
sorry, no taxicab confessions here today. i am saving them for my own post in progress…
Couldn’t agree more. It’s all about what you focus on with your beliefs, thoughts, and emotions. When you think about it, each “wish” that someone is trying to think positivly about is really two subjects, having-it and not-having-it.
If you feel some negative emotion when you think about the thing you want you are actually focused on the not-having-it, and so not-having-it is what you get! And vice versa.
Great post!
Cardin
I’ve also noticed that it works vice-versa, too, at least in my experience. When I am feeling positive, I am more likely to think positive thoughts. One thing’s for sure, the two go together wonderfully!
Awesome post! Think AND feel good!
Positive thoughts, positive feelings and positive choices and actions!
Another great post
Meredith,
Very true, being mindfull can help to prevent the self sabatoge.
You are right, people often give up too soon. We live in an “immediate” society. If something doesn’t happen right away, it must not work.
Good thoughts, thanks for sharing!
Cardin,
Thanks for the visit and welcome. Yes, it is very easy to send conflicting messages on what we want. This is why so many people get frustrated, they are thinking one thing and feeling another, one tends to cancel out the other and there is no forward progress.
Thanks for your thoughts!
Sophia,
Yes, they do go hand in hand. Often times, changing your thoughts is the catlyst to changing your feelings.
Thanks for your thoughts, have a great day!
Nicola,
Thank-you! You are a positive light!
This is so true. However, it is easier said than done for most of us…including myself…
…I’m trying to learn.
I try the non-negative thinking. I lecture myself for thinking negative thoughts. I find that when I think positive, negative energy somehow finds its way in. So what then? Is it human nature to judge…I try so hard to be a good person…Knowing that I think negatively sometimes just makes the whole thing spiral…never ending.
And you are right…”it is easier said than done for most of us”
Lisa,
Yes, it is always much easier said than done, that is why this is a journey, a flow, none of this is static.
Enreal,
I suggest that you don’t lecture yourself when you do not live up to your own expectaions. Simply acknowlege what is happing and begin again. When the negative energy appears, acknowlege it and let if flow through. The more attention that you give it, the more the negative energy will grow.
You make an excellent point Mark! We could all stand a reminder of this now and again!
Desiree,
Thanks for the comment! Have a great day!
I think this reinforces the idea of “fake it ’til you make it”. There have also been studies done that show if we “put on a happy face” (not ironic happiness, but true happy facial movements like smiling with the eyes as well as the lips), it has an effect on our heart rate and overall emotion. The same is true with frowning. (The studies are described in great detail in “Blink” by Malcom Gladwell. AWESOME book, BTW.)
Positive thinking doesn’t do squat if we keep doing what we’ve always done. It’s in the changing, and the moving forward, that our attitudes change.
This reminds me also of the concept of “love is a verb, not a feeling”. We can “feel” love, but if we don’t “love” as a verb, then the real love is hard to come by. It’s by loving as a verb that love comes alive and we can send lovingkindness to others. You can’t just “think” love. You gotta do it. Well, in my experience anyway.
BTW, I like the new theme. Although, white on black turns the next page I look at into a blinding sun.
I love how wordpress offers so many themes.
I guess this is all part of the Law of Attraction. I am new to this type of thinking. (That is LOA) I usually go by my intuition.
I am glad you wrote this though, having that positive thought backed up the support of the feeling is the only way.
My thoughts are, how to align them if you just can’t get the feeling to follow the thought vice versa. Do you not go on that interview, or do you go and hope for the best?
It is a process. Most of the time, I don’t listen to my brain/thoughts. I go by my feelings, and if I am not feeling it, I don’t do it.
Tammy,
Yes, faking untill you make it is a great way to remember that sometimes if we fake the feeling, then we can fool ourselves into changing our actions and true mood.
Love is a verb, it is all about action, the first step in any action is thought.
Glad you enjoy the new look, felt it was time to jazz things up a bit. Thanks for adding your thoughts, very valuable to this conversation.
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Travis,
Glad you enjoyed. Welcome! Hope to hear from you again.
just i`m thinking negetively what about ghost.